Monday, June 30, 2008
Fantastic Giveaways!
Win the Essential Babywearing Stash from Along for the Ride (one Beco Butterfly, one Hotsling baby pouch, one BabyHawk Mei Tai, one Zolowear Ring Sling, and one Gypsy Mama Wrap)
Win a Bum Genius 3.0 Starter Kit from Nature's Child - Wholesome Goods for Mothers and Babies
Beautiful Birth With First Time Mom...
Mom did fantastic, knew just how to move to help her body bring the baby down. She sat a little in the tub, but didn't like it too much so did most of her laboring out of water. She was very in tune with herself, and I really didn't have to do much. It was the easiest birth I had done yet. She pushed for about an hour and gave birth to a perfect baby boy, 7lbs 8oz. He latched on like a champ right away and is doing great.
Mom really impressed me, not once did she lose control. In fact, when we sensed that she was hitting transition we told her that this was the point that most women start to think that they can't do it, and she simply stated, "Don't worry about me, I know I can do it." And she did. Not once did she say she can't, in fact during the pushing stage, as the head was crowing, she kept saying, "I'm almost done so we're just going to do this." and pushed him out! It really was an awesome birth. I'm going to see the happy couple and baby tonight for our first postpartum visit and I'm excited to see the little guy again :o) I really loved the birth; it was quick, beautiful, and easy, and I was home in time for lunch ;o)
I just got hired by another great couple and I have my first prenatal with them in July. She is due late September and my other client is due in October. I don't think I can get July filled as July is pretty much already here but my goal is to try to get a client for August. I might not take on clients in November and maybe December because if I get pregnant in October like the Knight and I plan, then I will most likely have my usual horrible morning sickness during that time and I don't think attending births then would be the best thing. I haven't thought yet on how long into my pregnancy I will continue to work, it's still a little far in the future, but it's coming up quick!
Beautiful Birth With First Time Mom...
Hopeline Needs Your Help!
Hopeline Needs Your Help!
The History of Birth: What Every Childbirth Educator Should Know
Childbirth was once attended primarily by community midwives: women who were experienced in childbirth and who understood the natural process of labor and birth. Birth was a community event in which women would rally around and support the new mother and infant. Community bonds were strong, and despite the fact that women were placed in the more traditional role that is now viewed as "demeaning", every woman back then experienced and knew the power of her body: the power to go through the natural labor process and bring forth life.
Read more...
The History of Birth: What Every Childbirth Educator Should Know
Sunday, June 29, 2008
What Happened to the Guppy...
Lately I had been posting about how both the Mermaid and the Guppy had some sort of stomach bug last week. However, by Friday they were perfectly fine, and through the weekend and Monday they were fine as well.
On Tuesday morning, the Guppy woke up around 7:30 and she was extremely fussy. She wouldn't nurse, eat, or drink. I thought it was just that she stayed up late last night, so I didn't worry about it too much. But then, at 8 am, she vomited.
Then she vomited again. And again. And again. In between 8 and 9:30, she vomited nine times. And she had very runny stools.
After about the third time she got sick I called the Knight at his work and told him to leave and come pick us up (we are a one family car) so that we could take her to urgent care. I did this because she was extremely pale and because she wasn't nursing, which is completely unlike her because she was nursing the week before when she was sick.
In between the time that the Knight left his work and got to our house (a fifteen minute drive), the Guppy vomited once more, then started to pass out. She is a very picky girl and hates to be dirty. In fact, the week before when she was sick, she would practically demand that I clean her up immediately after each time she got sick. Not this time. She was so lethargic that she would just lay her head down in her own vomit and fall asleep. I went to change her diaper and that's when I saw blood in her stool. She vomited again and passed out on the changing table.
This time, I couldn't wake her up.
The Knight arrived and I left my sister in charge of the Mermaid while we rushed her to the hospital. They took one look at her and rushed her in, putting in an IV and trying to get her to wake up (she didn't even wake up when they put in the needle). They quickly pumped 200ml of saline into her and then slowed the saline down slightly. She woke up after that, but was still extremely lethargic. They took blood tests, x-rays, etc. Then they saw the blood in her stool and that was when they told me they were going to transfer her to a larger hospital that is better equipped to handle pediatric emergencies.
She looked so incredibly small and fragile on the ambulance stretcher, I couldn't help but cry. When they put her in the ambulance, she was awake and more aware of her surroundings (she was responding to my voice and the EMT's questions of "where's mommy?"). However, about half way to the hospital she stopped responding and once again they couldn't get her to wake up, so they hit the sirens and floored it to the ER of the bigger hospital. They checked us in, asked the usual questions (symptoms? vomiting and runny stools with blood. Allergies? None. Is she up to date with her shots? We don't vaccinate.).
They gave her a special saline mixture with sugar in it and once again she woke up, but was still extremely lethargic. They explained to us that if it had been a simple stomach virus and dehydration, that she would have responded to the saline mixture. But because she wasn't responding, and because of the blood in her stool, and because her white blood count was too high, then they were going to admit her for overnight. All the x-rays and blood tests that they had done came back negative, and they were concerned because they couldn't figure out what she has and why she has blood in her stool. They sent in a stool test but told me it would take a couple of days to get the tests results back.
So, we had the IL's take the Mermaid overnight (my MIL was kind enough to call in for work on Wednesday so she could stay with the Mermaid the next day as well) and they got us situated in the room on the pediatric floor. Because they didn't know what she had, they put us in an isolated room and everyone who came in to examine her had to put on gloves and a gown. They put her back on saline and a monitor to monitor her heart, and I spent the night curled up in the hospital crib with her.
In the morning she slept and slept. She finally woke up around 10 and sat up and started acting like her usual self. She laughed and clapped and asked me to read her a book and she asked to nurse! She ate a little bit of toast and drank a lot of water. MIL brought the Mermaid up to visit around noon time and when the Mermaid walked in she said to the Guppy, "Are you okay? Did the doctors make you feel better?" The Guppy responded by getting down on all fours and pretending to be a dog (this is their favorite game to play together) and soon we had two happy, playing
The doctors came and and told us that we could go home that afternoon if she kept responding the way she was. They also explained that they still did not know what she had that caused the bloody stools, etc. but that the stool test might reveal something in a few days.
Then it began. The "you don't vaccinate?!" lecture. Only we got it three times. From three different doctors. One doctor told us that "This really could have been prevented if she had been vaccinated." to which the Knight responded with "Oh, so you do know what she has?"
"Well, no...but my guess would be that it could have been prevented."
When the first doctor had come and he asked us why we didn't vaccinate I was foolish enough to try to explain. He really didn't care and the Knight did try to argue with him. When he left I told that Knight not to argue with them because it's a waste of time. So, when the other two doctors came in and asked why not I just said "for personal reasons" and the Knight and I just smiled and nodded as they lectured us poor, ignorant parents who have no idea how dangerous it is not to vaccinate and thank goodness they were there to tell us how wrong we are and make us see the light!!!
Anyways, other than that I must say both the doctors and nurses were very kind to us and very respectful of the fact that both of us wanted to stay (they normally only allow one parent to stay) and they more than encouraged me to try to nurse her. In fact, they were great about the nursing and I didn't get one single "You're still nursing?" comment.
More importantly, the Guppy is in perfect health now. We took her home Wednesday afternoon and she slept most of the day and into the night. We woke her up twice just to get some fluids in her and to check her diaper but other than that we let her sleep. Friday I took her to another pediatrician for a follow up visit and he said that she is in perfect health. He knew that we do not vaccinate, but he didn't say a word. He mentioned that it might have been rotavirus, and because she was sick the week before her immune system was probably a little weaker and that is why it hit her so strongly. However, he isn't sure as the stool tests came back clear, so they still aren't sure what she had.
So she is fine now, very much clingy, but fine. And I don't mind the clinginess and the constant nursing, I just like to look at her open and aware eyes and tickle her and kiss her squishy cheeks and watch her play with the Mermaid.
We're all healthy again, and life is good.
What Happened to the Guppy...
Thursday, June 26, 2008
Back From Hospital
A small update: we are home from the hospital and the Guppy is doing as fine as can be expected. She's been eating and drinking a little bit and even nursing, yay! We have to take her to her pediatrician tomorrow for a follow up, and hopefully then we will hear more on the lab results.
For now, I'm just really tired and grateful that she's okay, so I will write a more detailed post later when I get a chance.
Back From Hospital
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
Birthday Celebration, Part II
Birthday Celebration, Part II
Sunday, June 22, 2008
The Adventures of Pumping: Don't Spill That Liquid Gold!
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When my oldest daughter was born, I stayed home with her for the first six months. Then I decided to go back to school and finish my degree. So, I went to WalMart and bought the cheapest pump I could find....after all, a pump is a pump, right?
Now that I look back, I thank heavens that I am a good pumper and was able to pump well, even with a inferior pump.
When my second daughter was born, I went to work part time at nights when she was six months old. This time, I was wiser and I bought the Medela Pump in Style. This pump was a dream come true: in ten minutes I could pump twice the amount it took me twenty minutes to pump with the cheaper pump.
All in all, my experiences pumping were positive. However, there were a couple of mini-disasters thrown in there:
Like the time I forgot my pumped milk out in the car overnight during the summer weather...
Or the time our freezer died and I had to toss out over 80 oz of pumped milk (that one made me cry)...
Or the time I decided unwisely to be a little lazy about pumping. The next thing I knew, my daughter hit a growth spurt and went through my entire stash in the freezer in one day. I had to miss a day of classes so I can pump enough to leave for her the next day....
The worst, though, happened at my part time job. I was the only supervisor on that night because the other supervisor was ill. I went back to pump, and right after my let-down reflex happened, they paged me to the front. I had to go. Now, I have a very powerful let-down (I can literally hit the ceiling), so I literally had to stuff my bra with toilet paper to catch the leaking as I ran up to help the customer. Not pretty.
Pumping is definitely an adventure. And not the easiest one. But it is worth it. Here are some pumping tips:
~ stay hydrated
~ try to pump at the same time during the day that your baby would normally nurse
~ To encourage the let-down reflex, try looking at a picture of your baby, or keeping close a blanket that smells like your baby, or even recording your baby's hungry cry to play back when you need to pump.
~ Make sure you get a good quality pump. Medela Pump in Style is the one I like to recommend for moms who have to pump often. Some insurance companies will even cover the cost of the pump.
~ Make sure you know how to store breastmilk properly. You can find great information on storing breastmilk at KellyMom and at La Leche League.
~ Remember that with pumping, as with a lot of things, practice makes perfect. If you and your baby have a healthy breastfeeding relationship established, you can start to pump two weeks before you return to work. Don't be alarmed if your first attempt doesn't yield much milk: your body needs time to adjust to the pump. You can practice by pumping before the baby wakes up in the morning, after the baby feeds, and after the baby goes to sleep. Store your milk from these practice sessions in the freezer to use as a backup stash - you are probably going to need it!
Other bloggers who are sharing their pumping experiences are....
The Motherwear Breastfeeding Blog
The Attached Mother
The Hobo Mama
The Breastfeeding Mum Blog
Raising Baby Bee
Mama Knows Breast
Mike and Tonis
The Adventures of Pumping: Don't Spill That Liquid Gold!
Saturday, June 21, 2008
That's Much, Much Better...
I came home feeling refreshed and energized. The Guppy was still awake and demanded "na nas" and instead of the annoyance that I had been feeling about nursing and cleaning up vomit all week, I swept her up in my arms and kissed and tickled her and listened to her laughter as it rang like a fairy bell through the house. I didn't mind nursing her. I am her mother and she is my baby and I love her dearly, but I am also a woman and I think I had forgotten to nurture that side of myself this week. The night out had done that and more, so I was ready to snuggle and tickle and even wipe some noses as we settled down for the night.
Tonight is part II of my birthday celebration, dinner with the family at Fire and Ice.
That's Much, Much Better...
Friday, June 20, 2008
Fantastic Friday
~ we have our down payment for our house all set. We're still looking for the right house, and we are very excited.
~ We got hit twice this week with unexpected financial emergencies; but both times, thanks to our smart ways with money and our emergency fund, we were able to take care of both emergencies without dipping into our down deposit.
Hopefully, now that things have returned to normal in the house, we can be even more productive this week.
For now, my birthday is tomorrow and I am looking forward to celebrating. Tonight I am going out for a desperately needed girls night out, and tomorrow night we are going out to eat for a family celebration. I can't wait!
Fantastic Friday
Some Resemblance Of Normalcy
It is now Friday and it is the first day that the girls are completely well again. All week it was simply crying, puking, messy diapers, nasty laundry, changing the sheets on the bed over and over and over and desperately trying to find a couple of minutes to throw some nasty laundry in the washing machine before I ran out of clean towels and sheets.
*Breathe*
There were some scary moments for me, like the fact that the Guppy was running a fever at times and the fact that she would not eat anything. Anything, that is, except for her "na nas", and thank goodness for nursing because without it I would have been in a full fledged panic, worrying about dehydration and loss of nutrients. Because the Mermaid wasn't vomiting as much as the Guppy I wasn't too worried about her, but I was worried enough where I really wished that she was still nursing and I even had the Knight run to the store and buy that Pedialyte crap to give to her to make sure she stayed hydrated.
But all is well now, the girls were still a little fussy and still had runny stools yesterday but no vomiting and today they are both fine and playing. I changed the sheets one last time, put the Guppy back in cloth, put the Mermaid back in panties, and I actually put on clothes that I enjoy wearing instead of the ugly clothes from the back of my closet that I didn't care if they got soiled or vomited on. I even put makeup on. I've got one last load of nasty laundry to do and then I am caught up. Today my goal is to get back on track with my businesses and certification courses and get the house clean.
However, at this point I am not going to be upset if I don't get all that done; having some resemblance of normalcy for one day would be enough to keep me happy.
One positive aspect of this week? The Mermaid is now fully potty trained. Nothing like having diarrhea to motivate a kid to sit on the potty to poop, right?
Some Resemblance Of Normalcy
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Baby Fever
....you walk in the door from teaching a prenatal workshop, poke your husband, and say "Will you just impregnate me already?"
I've got it bad. And although the Knight and I agreed that we would wait until October, patience is a virtue that I don't really have.
3.5 months to go.......
Baby Fever
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
I Hear Scuttling...
Sunday night the Mermaid woke up several times and vomited everywhere....it was not pretty, poor baby. Needless to say, neither the Knight or I got any sleep at all and I ended up with a LOT of nasty laundry to wash. The Knight called into work on Monday so he could get some sleep, and I spent the day trying to keep the Mermaid hydrated and as comfortable as possible. By Monday night, she was absolutely fine.
I thought we were in the clear, but I spoke too soon. This morning the Guppy woke up crankier than usual and refused to eat any breakfast. She was also very clingy and wanted to nurse a lot. I didn't think anything of it until after breakfast: we were cuddling on the bed and she sat up, let out a big burp, and got sick all over herself, the bed, and me. Thank goodness she had only had breastmilk! However, it still isn't pretty and so far I've had an ugly morning. Another HUGE load of nasty laundry is waiting in the laundry room and the Guppy and I smell like sour milk. I keep nursing her and, like with the Mermaid, I've given her homeopathic medicine, ginger tea, and some honey. She's finally sleeping now and I'm praying she wakes up feeling better.
When the Mermaid was sick, I was frustrated and worried about making sure she was getting enough fluids and nutrients. I'm worried about the Guppy as well, but at least I know that she is getting all the fluids and nutrients she needs by nursing. Let's not forget that I am providing her with comfort at the same time! Let's hear it for extended-nursing!
I Hear Scuttling...
SIDS Caused By Toxins?
How can crib death be prevented?
Many parents may be unaware of a 100% successful crib death prevention campaign which a New Zealand scientist, Dr Jim Sprott, has been running in New Zealand for ten years.
Here's an interesting excerpt from www.thecauseofsids.org:
Dr Sprott states with certainty that the cause of crib death has been
discovered: it is caused by very toxic nerve gases which can be generated from mattresses and certain other bedding used in babies' cribs. These toxic nerve gases are generated when compounds of phosphorus, arsenic and/or antimony in the bedding combine with household fungus which commonly grows in bedding.
These gases (which are all anticholinesterase agents), when inhaled by a baby or absorbed through the baby's skin in a lethal dose, shut down the baby's central nervous system, stopping breathing and then heart function. Thus the cause of crib death is not medical – it is the result of environmental poisoning. The baby can be fatally poisoned without waking and without physical struggle.
The solution is to prevent exposure of babies to the gases by wrapping
mattresses in accordance with a specified protocol and ensuring that bedding used on top of the wrapped mattresses is not capable of the gas generation concerned.
It would be really interesting to see what the rest of the medical community think of this study, and also to learn why this study is not well known in this country.
SIDS Caused By Toxins?
AMA Resolution to Outlaw Homebirth
From the article:
WASHINGTON, D.C. (June 16, 2008)—Just in time for Father’s Day, at its annual meeting last weekend, the American Medical Association (AMA) adopted a resolution to introduce legislation outlawing home birth, and potentially making criminals of the mothers who choose home birth with the help of Certified Professional Midwives (CPMs) for their families.
“It’s unclear what penalties the AMA will seek to impose on women who choose to give birth at home, either for religious, cultural or financial reasons—or just because they didn’t make it to the hospital in time,” said Susan Jenkins, Legal Counsel for The Big Push for Midwives 2008 campaign. “What we do know, however, is that any state that enacts such a law will immediately find itself in court, since a law dictating where a woman must give birth would be a clear violation of fundamental rights to privacy and other freedoms currently protected by the U.S. Constitution.”
You can read the full article here.
I am still speechless...
AMA Resolution to Outlaw Homebirth
Father's Day
I love the look of happiness on her face in this one!
Father's Day
Friday, June 13, 2008
The Bits and Pieces
~ The Mermaid is making wonderful progress with her potty learning; she is almost fully using the potty.
~ I have baby fever - bad. I think it is due to the fact that I was three weeks late with my cycle and had convinced myself that I was pregnant and gotten myself all excited. Needless to say, I'm not pregnant, and very disappointed.
~ I plan on stepping up my efforts to network with my doula business. I really want to get to know the other business owners in the area. I've been doing this a little bit here and there, but now I am going to focus my efforts more on attending networking events, etc.
~ The Knight and I are house shopping again...I had forgotten what a pain that was...
So, what are everyone's plans for Father's Day? We're not really sure what we are doing yet, but I want to do something special for my man!
The Bits and Pieces
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Celebrity Home Birth
Celebrity Home Birth
Support a Wonderful Support Group
La Leche League is such a wonderful support group for breastfeeding women. Not only do their volunteers offer breastfeeding support and guidance, but they also hold meetings and reach out the community to let women know that they are not alone when it comes to breastfeeding difficulties, and that in a world where breastfeeding receives little support, there is somewhere to turn.
I remember after the Mermaid was born, I took her in for her first appointment with the pediatrician on a Friday. The doctor felt that she had not gained enough weight and wanted me to start supplementing with formula. Thankfully, I had devoured The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding (put out by LLL) and knew that there were other options. So, the doctor and I made a deal: I would come back in on Monday, and if she hadn't gained any weight, I would consider supplementing.
As soon as I got home, I looked up the phone number for a local La Leche League Leader (we lived in CT at the time). I was very upset and worried, and feeling as though I was already failing in "motherhood". I don't remember the name of the woman I called, but I do remember how calm, reassurring, and compassionate she was. She listened to me without judgment or interruption. She thought it might be that the Mermaid had a weak latch, and offered to come by and help me fix it, or if I wanted, I could come to her house. This woman did not know me at all, but she wanted to take time out of her day and inconvenience herself just to help me correct a weak latch. I asked if she could talk me through it over the phone, and she did. By the end of the conversation, the Mermaid was literally gulping down milk and I was never so thankful in my life that I had called this wonderful LLL leader.
When I brought the Mermaid in that Monday, she had gained 16 oz over the weekend. We never had another breastfeeding problem after that.
I have been active in the local LLL group since the Guppy was six weeks old. These women have helped me through breastfeeding and parenting struggles, have listened to me vent about issues surrounding motherhood, and have generally offered me a place where I can go and breastfeed and parent my children without fear of being judged by someone who parents differently. Every mother should have a place like LLL to turn to. And with your help, they can.
LLL is a non-profit organization. You can help LLL by becoming a member and enjoying the benefits of membership. Another way you can help is by participating in fundraising efforts. Many LLL groups hold fundraising events to raise money: the group I currently belong to has an ongoing fundraising event with Green Raising. The La Leche League of Linwood, NJ is having a fundraiser with Chico Bags. There are so many ways to help.
Support a Wonderful Support Group
Safe Toys and More
My friend has a great store to meet all those needs, Non Toxic Tots. Head on over and check it out!
Safe Toys and More
Monday, June 09, 2008
La Leche League Founder Passed Away
Edwina Froehlich of Inverness, Illinois, co-founder of La Leche League International and co-author of The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding, which has over 2 million copies in print, died at 5 am on Sunday, June 8, 2008 at Northwest Community hospital in Arlington Heights after suffering a stroke on May 25.In 1956, Edwina Froehlich and six other women met in Franklin Park, Illinois to share information on how to successfully breastfeed their babies. The group quickly attracted the attention of other women and became an organization called La Leche League. “In those days you didn’t mention ‘breast’ in print,” Froehlich once said. “We knew that if we were ever going to get anything in the paper we would have to find a name that wouldn’t actually tell people what our organization was about.” The breastfeeding support group took the Spanish name for milk as its name. From these roots grew La Leche League International, a breastfeeding support not-for-profit organization, which has groups in every
U.S. state and in 68 different countries. The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding has been translated into eight languages and Braille.
La Leche League Founder Passed Away
Better Labels for Prescription Drugs
From the article:
Under the new proposal, drug labeling would explain the potential benefits and risks for the mother, her fetus or her new baby, and how these risks change over the course of pregnancy, Kweder said.
New drug labels would include three sections devoted to pregnancy and breast-feeding. The first section, called the "Fetal Risk Summary," would describe what's known about the effects
of a drug on the fetus and whether the risk is based on results of animal studies or human studies.
The second section, called "Clinical Considerations," would include information about effects associated with the drug if it were taken before a woman knows she is pregnant. This section would also outline risks of the disease to the mother and baby, dosing information and how to address complications.
The final section, called "Data," would describe in detail the available information about the drug's use in humans and
animals studies used in developing the "Fetal Risk Summary."
The breast-feeding section of the label would use the same format as the pregnancy section and provide information about using the drug while nursing, Kweder said.
You can also find information about drug safety during pregnancy and breastfeeding from KellyMom and from the book Medications and Mother's Milk. Remember, even if a medication that you are prescribed is unsafe for breastfeeding, you can still talk with your doctor about a possible alternative drug that would be safe for while you are nursing.
Better Labels for Prescription Drugs
Friday, June 06, 2008
Fantastic Friday
I'm pleased to say that this week we did rather well. I made an effort to stay home as much as possible, because gas prices are really scary right now and gas was seriously cutting into our budget. We watched what we spent and the result was we had some money left over to put into the debt snowball fund.
I'm also starting to get back on track towards my efforts to get to a healthy weight. I joined a weight loss club for motivation and have started excercising again. This week I killed two birds with one stone: I saved on gas money and got some excercise by walking 2 miles to the local park and library instead of driving. I pulled the girls behind me in their wagon. The first day I thought I was going to die, it is mostly uphill, but it got easy pretty quickly, and I'm finding that I am enjoying the walks. I am really bummed that it rained the past three days; I miss walking already. The result? I lost 3lbs.
The Knight and I sat down recently and had a brainstorming session on ideas of how we can reach our goals quickly. It was more productive and motivating than I thought it was going to be. I finally feel that we are completely back on track, and focused once again on how we want our lives to be.
Looking forward to updating again next week!
Fantastic Friday
WomenAid in the News!
WomenAid in the News!
3 going on 10
The Mermaid just did something that made me blink like that.
It's something so small, and yet...so big.
She simply walked into the kitchen, and without saying a word, opened the fridge, opened the fruit drawer and took out the bag of apples. She then took the last apple out of the bag, closed the drawer and the fridge, threw the empty bag away, then walked out.
Such a simple act, but it makes such a big statement as to how independent and big she is getting. She's not the little girl anymore, who would have to ask for the apple and then wait while I cut it up.
My baby girl is getting big.....
3 going on 10
Thursday, June 05, 2008
On My Mind...
I, for one, am happy with the court's decision.
Now, I've based my opinion on what I know. And this is what I know:
~ they still haven't found the 16 year old girl who made the anonymous call. In fact, they are now saying that it might have been a crank call.
~ I know of situations in some families where one child is abused and the rest aren't. When this happens, usually the court only take the abused child out of the household and let the rest of the children stay: their goal is to keep the family as intact as possible. So, even if some children were being abused, why in the world would they essentially round up every child in the ranch? If one child in one family in a small town is being abused, do you round up all the children in the town? Of course not. You find out which children are being abused and deal with them.
I believe that this may have been a case of religious persecution. After all, if a couple of families on the ranch believe in marrying off their 13 year old girls, then they must all believe it, right? So round them all up! If one or two families on the ranch are abusing their children (and they should be punished for it), then they must all be abusing their children, right? Round them up! It has already been proven that the officials have not been completely honest about the situation:
Texas officials claimed at one point that there were 31 teenage girls at the ranch who were pregnant or had been pregnant, but later conceded that about half of those mothers, if not more, were adults. One was 27.
And:
The case before the court technically only applies to the 124 children of those mothers, but it significantly affects nearly all the children since they were removed under identical circumstances.
The Third Court of Appeals in Austin ruled last week that the state failed to show that any more than five of the teenage girls were being sexually abused, and had offered no evidence of sexual or physical abuse against the other children.
So, let's review. The police receive the call from the 16 year old girl, who they never found. They immediately go in and round up all the children, over 400, and rip them from their mother's arms and their homes, even though they had no evidence of sexual or physical abuse against those children. So what the the reason for their removal? Their religious beliefs? Must have been. Their beliefs are different, so it must be wrong, right?
Of course they should investigate for child abuse. Of course the parents who abuse their children should be punished. But taking them all away from their homes and family was, in my opinion, uncalled for. I'm happy to see they are able to go home, and I hope the cases of child abuse are resolved soon.
On My Mind...
Technical Help
I've always noticed that my blog loads slowly, and sometimes makes my computer freeze up. However, I always assumed that it was just my computer, because my computer is really slow. But I've gotten word from a couple of people that the same thing happens to them.
So, does my blog load slowly for you? And does anyone know how to fix that?
Technical Help
Wednesday, June 04, 2008
A Love That Lasts Forever
Three years ago I walked down the asile and committed myself and my love to you. Never once for a single moment have I come even close to regretting that decision.
You are still my best friend. The best father I know. My soul mate.
There are so many things that I love about you, the list is endless. So, I had to limit myself to 50.
50 Things I Love About the Knight
1. He's handsome
2. He makes me laugh
3. He changes diapers
4. He cooks dinner
5. He helps me clean the house
6. He does all the above without complaining
7. The way he can make the girls laugh until they're out of breath
8. The way he makes sure every night to take time out to play with the girls, no matter how tired/busy/grumpy he is.
9. The way he encourages me to get my businesses off the ground
10. The way he makes the sacrafices we need to make in order to keep me home with the girls
11. The way his calmness balances out my hyperness
12. Because when I told him that I was going to go out with my girls for my birthday and he will have to stay home with the kids, he said "Okay, have fun".
13. The fact that he takes the time every day first thing when he gets home from work to sit with the Mermaid and look at everything she learned that day.
14. He is one of the most creative writers I know.
15. Even though he is really competetive, he lets me win sometimes
16. He would rather stay home with me and the girls than go out to a strip club or bar
17. The way he gets along so well with my family...and if you knew my family, you'd know that was a big one.
18. He always, always has my back...even when he thinks I'm wrong
19. Because he said "um....okay" when I said "I want to have a homebirth. Do you think a birthing tub will fit in the living room?"
20. Because he said the above when I said "I want to use cloth diapers" and "I want to homeschool" and "I want to co-sleep".
21. The way he compliments me every day...sincerely
22. Because when he walks in the house, and the kids are a mess, the dishes are piled up and the living room is trashed, he'll thank me for getting the laundry done.
23. Because he knows exactly what my dreams are...and shares them
24. Because he has dreams and goals...and works towards them
25. Because, like me, he believes that life can be better than the 9-5 corporate grind
26. Because his jokes are so corny they make you laugh
27. Because even though he loves sports, he'll turn the game off to read a book to the girls if they ask him to.
28. He's pretty clean and neat for a guy
29. He likes to read great books and recommend them to me, and vice versa.
30. He likes to discuss what we're reading.
31. He was the first guy I dated that I was able to have an intelligent conversation with.
32. The way he will debate history and politics with me via email while he is at work.
33. He is so organized, he makes a spread sheet for everything
34. He knows what I am feeling, without me saying anything.
35. The way he knows that when I walk away upset, he should chase after me.
36. The way he reminds me to be fair by not chasing me if I walk away a second time.
37. The way he knows just what to say, or just what to do, without even knowing what's bothering me.
38. He likes to cuddle.
39. He likes my cooking...the rare times I do cook.
40. Even if he doesn't like it, he'll eat it anyway.
41. The way he makes me laugh hysterically...with a one sentence email.
42. When I call him at work to vent about the girls driving me crazy, he never tells me he's too busy. He just listens and let's me get it out.
43. He'll do the grocery shopping on his own, and even bring both girls with him when he senses I need a break.
44. He loves to take the girls to the park.
45. He loves the library just as much as I do.
46. Because his NetFlix Queue if filled with documentaries and historical movies.
47. If he's watching a movie and there is bad language, he'll turn it off until after the girls are in bed.
48. He's such a kick-ass labor support person.
49. He supports me in breastfeeding whole-heartedly.
50. And finally...because no matter where I am or what I'm doing, I know that he is there caring about me. And that makes me feel special.
Happy Anniversary, my Knight. Here's to many more.
A Love That Lasts Forever
Monday, June 02, 2008
Okay, This is Getting Ridiculous...
Apparently, if you want to give birth with an OB, but you want the treatment that you would already receive from a midwife, you have to pay an extra $15,000.00
From the article:
Burnette-Dubose's experience is extreme, but many American patients feel the same way — like they're just a number in line at the butcher's shop. Some patients have had enough, and those who can afford it are choosing to pay hefty premiums out-of-pocket to get more personalized, more polite service. There are
now more than 1,000 doctors in the U.S. who have opened concierge, or boutique, practices, according to the Society for Innovative Medical Practice Design. They limit the number of patients they see so they can devote more time to each; accept insurance for routine treatment and tests; and charge patients an additional flat fee for extras like no waiting, longer office visits and round-the-clock availability via e-mail or cell phone.
You can read the full text here.
In my experience, by OBGYN for my first daughter wasn't horrible, but she wasn't exactly the most pleasant thing either. Appointments with her lasted about 5 minutes long, most of which she chastised me on "gaining too much weight". Once, I tried to ask her questions about certain procedures and she told me that I "read too much".
Fast forward to my pregnancy with my second daughter, when I had a midwife. Each appoinment was a minimum of one hour, where we talked openly with each other. She answered any questions I had about pregnancy and birth, and many times she even listened as I vented some of my frustrations in my life that were completely unrelated to my pregnancy. My OB left my delivery room soon after my birth; my midwife stayed a few hours to help me get settled in and to help clean up. And the kicker? My midwife charged less.
What has our maternity care system come to?
Okay, This is Getting Ridiculous...
Sunday, June 01, 2008
American College Of Nurse-Midwives Publishes Clinical Guidelines For Oral Nutrition During Labor
Not long. As both a mother who has had a hospital birth and a doula, I detest the rule that most hospitals have in place to deny a laboring mother food and drink.
Finally, it looks like the CNM agrees.
From the article:
The newest Clinical Bulletin from the American College of Nurse-Midwives reviews evidence relevant to providing oral nutrition to women in labor and concludes that drinking and eating during labor can provide women with the energy they
need and should not be routinely restricted.
You can read the full text here.
It will be interesting to see how many hospitals will change their policy to follow the recommendations of the guidelines. As far as I know, the obstetric field is the only medical field that tends to ignore the results of their own research and studies. We shall see.
American College Of Nurse-Midwives Publishes Clinical Guidelines For Oral Nutrition During Labor
Formula for the Sweet Tooth
It turns out that the popular Similac Organic formula is made with cane sugar. According to the story:
Parents may be buying it because they believe that organic is healthier, but babies may have a reason of their own for preferring Similac Organic: it is significantly sweeter than other formulas. It is the only major brand of organic formula that is sweetened with cane sugar, or sucrose, which is much sweeter
than sugars used in other formulas.
No health problems in babies have been associated with Similac Organic. But to pediatricians, there are risks in giving babies cane sugar: Sucrose can harm tooth enamel faster than other sugars; once babies get used to its sweeter taste, they might resist less sweet formulas or solid foods; and some studies
suggest that they might overeat, leading to rapid weight gain in the first year, which is often a statistical predictor of childhood obesity.
You can read the full story here...
Formula for the Sweet Tooth